Like Christ by Tom Guadagno. A man walks a country road toward sunrise beneath a cross-shaped beam of light. Coming soon
The second book

Like Christ

A Man's Guide to Becoming the Husband God Designed

One question sits underneath every marriage: am I the husband God designed me to be? Not the husband culture describes, or the one your father modeled, but the one Christ Himself showed us. Nineteen chapters that take the measure of a man out of human hands.

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StatusIn progress
StructureFour movements · 19 chapters
StandardEphesians 5:25
About the book

Paul did not tell husbands to do their best. He told them to love their wives as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her. That is the standard, and it is both the most demanding and the most freeing sentence ever written about marriage.

Like Christ walks a man through that standard in four movements. Look Up grounds him in the Christ he follows and the union he already has with Him. Look In turns the work inward, to an honest look in the mirror, life in the Spirit, and the hard skill of repentance. Look Out aims the whole catalog of Christlike love at one woman: knowing her, serving her, sacrificing for her, speaking truth with tenderness, covering her, keeping covenant. Keep Walking builds the prayer, rhythms, joy, and brotherhood that carry a marriage the rest of the way.

This is not a book about becoming perfect. It is about facing the right direction and refusing to stop walking.

Four movements

Look up. Look in. Look out. Keep walking.

Movement one

Look Up

  1. The Christ he follows
  2. The union he already has with Him
In Christ before like Christ
Movement two

Look In

  1. An honest look in the mirror
  2. Life in the Spirit
  3. The hard skill of repentance
The work turns inward
Movement three

Look Out

  1. Knowing her
  2. Serving her
  3. Sacrificing for her
  4. Speaking truth with tenderness
  5. Covering her
  6. Keeping covenant
Christlike love aimed at one woman
Movement four

Keep Walking

  1. Prayer
  2. Rhythms
  3. Joy
  4. Brotherhood
What carries a marriage the rest of the way

Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.

Ephesians 5:25, ESV